Not even a surprise anymore: another anti-gay “conservative” legislator in sex scandal

Top 5 reasons kids drop out of high school includes becoming a parent

Transgender mayor gets in trouble for wearing provocative dress to a meeting

How old is too old to be a new mom?

The difficult relationship between wives and mothers-in-law

Debunking myths about the male body

Uganda to outlaw female circumcision

Duh alert: sex goes back up amongst couples after their kids leave home

Women, are you watching more porn?

Women are getting more and more out of men’s league in terms of attractiveness.

Great segment on CNN about transgender issues- fascinating talk with Alexis Arquette, my good friend Ryan Sallans, Isis King of America’s Next Top Model and others

Polish priest offers Catholic couples a book all about sex tips

The IUD: oft-ignored great option for contraception

Are these new reality TV shows featuring heavy main characters exploitative?

Tragic tale of an 8 year Liberian immigrant girl gang raped and then shunned by her family for having shamed them.

Solid advice for inexperienced men from the maestro, Dan Savage

HIV rates among gay men in Chicago dangerously high

Ten tips for successful gay dating- helpful advice for anyone

Op-Ed: abortions should be government funded.

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The San Francisco 8 — No More!
By Mumia Abu-Jamal
[col. writ. 7/15/09]

It’s been 2 1/2 years since the San Francisco 8 — eight former members of the Black Panther Party — were cast into California jails and threatened with life sentences stemming from the 1971 shooting of a cop.

Perhaps the State figured the post – 9//11 paranoia and mania would make this an easy case.  Perhaps the government thought that because many of the accused were men of advancing age, decades away from their prime organizing and activist days, it would be a cake walk.

The 8 men fought with dignity, principle and unity — and several days ago — charges for 4 of them were dismissed altogether: Ray Boudreaux, Richard Brown, Hank Jones and Harold Taylor.

New York’s Jalil Muntaqim pled no contest to conspiracy — and got time served in San Francisco County Jail — almost 2 1/2 years — with 3 years probation.

Herman Bell — another New York former Panther –  took a similar deal earlier in July.

One ex-Panther, Francisco Torres, faces a hearing next month, where most observers expect all charges to be dropped.  Another, John bowman, died before trial. The last, Richard O’Neal, was cleared pre-trial.

From the very beginning, back in the ’70’s — several of the men were brutally tortured by police in Louisiana to elicit false confessions (thus we see that Abu Ghraib really was nothing new).

The cases were dismissed decades ago — on that basis alone.

That the prosecutions were reinstated at all is due more to the politicized Justice Department under John Ashcroft and George Bush — where torture was a tool of state –than anything else.  Also implicated?  The political ambitions of California Attorney General Jerry Brown, seeking the governorship.

No charges should’ve been brought in the first place — or if contemplated, dismissed under double jeopardy principles.

As it is — even the state admits — dismissal is valid due to insufficient evidence.

These results are due, in large part, to the solidarity of the men themselves, and some excellent, aggressive lawyering by assorted defense counsel, among them J. Soffiyah Elijah of Harvard Law School.

Several years ago, in a statement calling for support for the San Francisco 8, I implored supporters to fight for them now — before they fell into the clutches of the state containment system — instead of after.

Many took up that fight — leading to many of the most recent results.

– (c) ‘09 maj

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Today’s video of the day comes from Geraldo, where Governor Mike Huckabee, Ann Coulter, and I discussed Henry Louis Gates, Sarah Palin, and Barack Obama.

Questions to the Sexpert:

“You posted a link to a story about how pulling out is just as effective as condoms. This has got to be wrong. What was the point of all the sex education I’ve had my whole life? Did you read the study? Were there errors in it? And isn’t this dangerous? Won’t this convince kids to stop using condoms?”

Turns out all that sex ed was just a hilarious ploy to prevent you from having a good time, kind of like how dancing was outlawed in that small town in Footloose. Or else it was all just a big side-splitting joke from the people at Planned Parenthood.

Planned Parenthood Employee: “Hey, I bet you people are so stupid we can get them to wear trash bags on their wieners.”

Employee 2: “No way. They’ll ask too many questions. Next thing you know they’ll realize soda pop douches can cure disease and we’ll be out of business.”

No, actually. None of the above.

And yes, I read the original study and it’s not some trick methodology error or misrepresentation of the findings. Educators have known for ages that coitus interruptus, aka “pulling out,” aka withdrawal, aka the Hope Method isn’t really as bad as it often is mocked to be. The Oneida Community, a communist religious group in the 19^th century controlled population using only this method and were damn successful at it.

Here’s the thing: pre-cum DOES NOT contain sperm, only ejaculate does. So really, the only ways with withdrawal can fail are a) the man messes up the timing (the MAJOR reason) or b)the man ejaculated recently and some sperm were still hanging out from the last time.

This is the truth and as a scientist and educator it is my responsibility to tell you this. The difference between me and an ideologue (like the people behind abstinence-only education) is that I don’t think I know better and want to give you the facts so you can make your own damn decisions since you’re the only one who faces the consequences.

This truth is also not meant to be taken as a free pass to unprotected sex. In no way does this change the rates of sexually transmitted infections and in no part am I suggesting that withdrawal will protect you from herpes, Chlamydia, gonorrhea, HIV, syphilis, HPV, cooties or any other infection. And you can probably throw a rock into a crowd and hit a person for whom the pull out method has failed- because with imperfect use, it will fail.

This information has a specific intended audience for whom it is applicable: committed, disease-free adult couples who cannot or chose not to use other methods of birth control. This is NOT for teen boys who can’t possibly be expected to get the timing down. This is NOT for people who have multiple partners or other major risks for STIs. This is NOT meant as an excuse for men to promise to pull out if they don’t really meant it or they can’t handle the responsibility.

In the quest to have the real, scientific truth we sometimes encounter things that cause anxiety because we’re afraid of what people will do with the information. This is the reason some folks fear the Gardasil vaccine: they think it’ll encourage teen girls to go around fucking like maniacs, assuming they’re safe. But it was also the reason that a woman threatened to pull six figure donations from my alma mater after I answered a question about the menstrual cycle. And, of course, it was also why church folk didn’t want Galileo to get word out about the whole earth-revolving-around-the-sun situation.

So here’s the deal: if you aren’t in a committed relationship or don’t know for certain that you and your partner(s) are STI-free, pulling out is not a good option. If you don’t want to get pregnant stick to IUDs, hormonal contraception, condoms and other proven methods. But at the end of the day, the truth is that intercourse without ejaculation is not likely to result in pregnancy. What do you with that is up to you.

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Sexpert Timaree Schmit is currently finishing her doctorate in Human Sexuality, the culmination of a lifetime of prurient interests. She has worked as a sex educator writing for both academic and popular media for over seven years, and as an HIV Prevention Counselor, peer sexuality educator and adjunct professor. She was the founding Chair of the Human Sexuality Education Student Organization (HSEDSO) and is an active member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and the Society for Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS). You can see more of her work at SexWithTimaree.com