Sex with Timaree Friday Sex Links

August 28, 2009 by Timaree

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Awesome site all about female sexual pleasure. For the men folk: here’s the latest and greatest in masturbatory technology.

Adorable video about how various methods of birth control work

Is monogamy incest? The paradox of balancing intimacy and eroticism.

Ever heard of figging?

Lutherans voted to allow lesbian and gay clergy to serve! And Obama voices objections to DOMA ( it denies rights to same-sex couples).

The asexual movement continues to gain steam

What are the reasons that women cheat? Not surprisingly: boredom. Feel like being a cheater? Here’s advice on how to do it. But don’t get caught.

Talking to kids about sex is a continuous conversation not a one-time talk, and it needs to start early

Crash course in pleasing women without penetration

Do you suffer from painful sex?

Tennis legend Martina Navratilova has a new fiancé: a former beauty queen with a sordid past

Due to weird mistake, it’s currently legal to sell porn to kids in the UK.

The latest in the video series on the World’s Most Terrifying Penises: the Echidna

Adorable condom packaging- looks like there’s candy inside!

Circumcision not good enough prevention effort against HIV for gay men

Before you send your teen to work, think twice. Certain jobs may influence their sexual health.

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Sex with Timaree

August 26, 2009 by Timaree

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Question to the Sexpert:

“So what’s the deal with Caster Semenya, the runner who is undergoing gender tests? Why would it possibly take so long to establish if she’s actually a she? Can’t a quick look up the skirt settle this?”

The short version: She’s an 18 year old South African runner who handily smoked her competition in the 800 meters at the World Championships in Berlin last week.

And she doesn’t exactly look or sound like Maria Sharapova.

Between her sharply muscled physique, astounding athletic ability and (arguably) boyish disinterest in wearing skirts and long hair, she has aroused dodged harassment her whole life about being a boy.

And while I don’t think it played any part in the decision of the International Association of Athletics Federations (IAAF) to give her a gender test, the oddball fact is her name happens to be an anagram for “yes, a secret man.”

Now, Caster says the accusations that she is actually male are bullshit, her family says they’re bullshit, her team and country say they’re bullshit and they would all like to add that the whole thing smells a lot like… what is that thing?….that white people have done to black Africans for hundreds of years…. You know…. oh yeah, racism.

Like, I said, she doesn’t exactly look like Maria Sharapova.

So a month ago she was sent in for the battery of tests that require everything from a gynecologist to a psychologist, with examinations of her hormones, chromosomes, internal and external anatomy because she a) got too good too quickly and b) actually has three times the normal amount of testosterone for a woman.

Now, to clarify, most people who question her gender and ask for this gross invasion of privacy and very public humiliation don’t think she’s some dude who know’s he’s a dude but competes as a woman anyway- although that certainly has happened. They’re suggesting that Caster, like some other runners who came from such humble beginnings that consistent meals were a genuine concern, might be a man and not know it.

And honestly, they may be right. Caster might not have the standard XX chromosome pattern, or she might have no internal female anatomy or she might be intersexed in some other way. But then again, so might you. Between Klinefelter’s, Androgen Insensitivity, simple undifferentiated genitalia and the litany of other ways a person can be not 100% male or female, the shocking fact is that 1 in 100 births is, to some degree, intersex.

A lot of people have no idea until they hit puberty and things that are “supposed” to happen, don’t. Or things that aren’t “supposed” to happen do. Or they can’t get pregnant. Or they require internal surgery and BAM- holy shit, there’s an ovary!

And even if it’s discovered that she has some facet of intersexuality, it’s hard to say whether that makes her male or female- enough to allow her to compete against women. Here is an amazing essay on how bloody complicated the process is and how sports needs a standardized way of determining gender.

The whole issue is complicated by science and politics… with a touch of racism. In a world where we now must prove our gender to fly on an American airplane, the world is fairly hostile to transgender and intersex people. Caster has been greeted with a hero’s welcome back in South Africa but the fate of her gold medal still hangs in the balance. Here’s hoping things work out for her.

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Whatcha Readin’?

August 24, 2009 by Marc Lamont Hill

 

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Here are some books that I’ve been (re)reading recently:

Ethnicity Inc. by John L. and Jean Comaroff

The Real Hiphop: Battling for Knowledge, Power, and Respect in the LA Underground by Marcyliena Morgan

Righteous Dopefiend by Philip Bourgois

Bookmarks: Reading in Black and White by Karla F.C. Holloway 

We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity by bell hooks 

The Making of Literate Societies by David R. Olson & Nancy Torrance (eds.)

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