Are you the type to just make up things that aren’t true and then ignore the challenge to provide any level of proof? That is what one can accurately call “unhinged”!

Be glad we are not face to face! Be very glad!

“picture perfect all-American princess lifestyle”

I don’t know what that is!

But I come from a strong West-Indian family where GOD and family is the main focus. My parents love me dearly, and I’ve always had people around me who loved me, so I had a great childhood. And guess what, that love has always been given back from me to everyone who encounters me.

GOD is love, but some people don’t see GOD. If you have problems seeing GOD, you may have problems recognizing my love.

“The lifestyle of the person you describe and the person spouting off on this blog are NOT the same. Please explain the discrepancy.”

Again I ask you Cézsar, what did I “spout off on this blog” that you think is bitter, or in contrast to the person of love that I am?? You keep saying there’s a discrepancy, but you have failed to provide any proof of your claimed discrepancy. But that’s because you have none!

So I asked you, why are you indiscriminately hating on me???

“Your dad and all those prince charming Mr Perfect boyfriends gave you all that unconditional loving just so you could turn around and indiscriminately hate on Black men.”

Please specify what you consider “hate[ing] on Black men”, that I have said on this blog. All I know is that 1 bad apple will spoil the batch. If I try to remove that 1 bad apple and dispose of that 1 bad apple, that doesn’t mean I don’t like apples. (Ya Dig!)

“Your story is not adding up darling…explain.”

Explain what??? I grew up in a two parent home with a Dad and Mom who loves me. I’ve been smart enough to date men who were educated and ambitious and not drug dealers or gangsters. I speak truth, candid, direct and complete. The truth hurts, so not everybody can take it, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to stop speaking it. Nothing I have said on this blog is contrary to this. And you haven’t proved that it is, because you can’t! Stop hating on me Céz!

What’s not adding up is you assessment that I’m bitter and that being a Republican is linked to me being bitter. Again, try and give an example, please! Otherwise all of your statements will be chalked up as frivolous, forever and always.

“Tough love only works when the emphasis is on love darling. Didn’t your pops teach you that? The Black community in general has mostly ever focused on the “tough”, and the white community in general has mostly ever focused on the “love”, and that’s the difference. Didn’t your pops and boyfriends who have loved you so much teach you that?”

My loving father has taught me many things. One among them: “You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth might be the best thing in the world for you.” – Walt Disney (Ponder Upon That)

To me that is the difference between the black and white communities. White people welcome and accept criticism, because they want to grow. Black people can’t take criticism, because they think they are already “grown”!

BTW – I have no proof that Uncle Ruckus, I mean, Jesse Lee Peterson, is a Republican. But I do have proof that Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and Malcolm X were Republicans. King & X were both Pro-Life, fiscally conservative, and fought for small government.

But ignorant black people can’t see that, because they don’t even know what the difference is between Republicans and Democrats. All they know is someone told them all Republicans are prejudice and Democrats are not. So they believe it.

Are you one of the ignorant black people Cézsar??? If you’re a Democrat tell me why! Or more importantly, tell me why you’re against Republicans!

If the picture perfect all-American princess lifestyle you just described is the one you’ve really lived, then who is this character you are pretending to be on the blogs? The lifestyle of the person you describe and the person spouting off on this blog are NOT the same. Please explain the discrepancy. Your dad and all those prince charming Mr Perfect boyfriends gave you all that unconditional loving just so you could turn around and indiscriminately hate on Black men? Huh? Pourquoi? How is this possible? Your story is not adding up darling…explain.

Tough love only works when the emphasis is on love darling. Didn’t your pops teach you that? The Black community in general has mostly ever focused on the “tough”, and the white community in general has mostly ever focused on the “love”, and that’s the difference. Didn’t your pops and boyfriends who have loved you so much teach you that?

For a supposedly thoroughly nurtured and loved woman, something is curiously missing from your speech and expression. I think you know what that something is.

Oh and good luck with being a Black Republican. With role models like Jesse Lee Peterson to emulate, I’m sure you’ll be just fine, and rewarded accordingly.

You might want to read my last comment on the June 16, 2008 “Video of the Day” post, regarding Obama’s Father’s Day Speech.

Cézsar, I’m starting to think maybe you’re a deadbeat dad, and my comments here hit home for you. Take your own advice and “brush it off, that dirt, or chip, or break that boulder on your shoulder”. And take personal responsibility BLACK MAN!

Please specify exactly what statements I have made that lead you to believe I am “a very bitter woman”.

Just quote exactly 1 or 2 statements I made that are bitter!

I am not bitter towards anyone or anything.

Men have always been very good to me! Black men especially!

I don’t mean to toot my own horn, but men sweat me hard!

I have never had a bad relationship with any of my ex-boyfriends. I have had very healthy and productive relationships with all of my ex-boyfriends (95% of them black).

I am, to this very day, still good friends with ALL of my ex-boyfriends. Not to mention, that all of my relationships have ended because I ended them. I chose to move on. But they all still respect me, and I believe they would all come back to me without hesitation. They still call and say so!

Also, I have a great father. A black man. Who has been in my life every single day since my birth, and continues to support me, my sister and my mother (his wife of 30yrs) as a good father should, to this very day. I love my dad tremendously, and I know he loves me even more. He show and proves it everyday!

Further, I come from a huge family with hundreds of males cousins (not literally hundreds). I have a great relationship with all of my male and female cousins and my uncles and aunts. Bitter is not a word or emotion I know. Sorry!

So what is it that makes you think I am bitter towards black men???

Further, I am a Republican, because I stand firmly on the Pro-Life platform. I’m a fiscal conservative (the country is most progressive when taxes are at their lowest). I believe in the democracy of small government. And I believe in family values and high morals, and I believe it is the Republican Party alone, who can not only maintain, but uplift these ideals.

If you really read my comments and understand them, you would see all of these ideals resonated.

Democrats believe the exact opposite of my 3 first reasons for being a Republican.

Democrats have done nothing but abuse and misuse the black people and black issues they claim to “support”.

So please also explain how being a Republican is linked to being bitter towards black men.

I LOVE Black men, and I think all the financial contributions I have given to Morehouse College, provide a glimpse of that.

Cézsar, get your shit together bruh!

I believe there are now more than enough posts made by yourself on countless topics on this here blog site, to empirically substantiate what I’m about to say next: you are a very bitter woman.

The way you ALWAYS talk about Black men is very telling. It is not a loving critique; it is not tough love; it is a deep-seated resentment that you consciously nurture…and this perhaps explains why you are Republican.

Let it go darling…brush it off, that dirt, or chip, or break that boulder on your shoulder. There is a fine line between being passionate and being angry; that line does not exist with you. Not from what I see in your posts.

You are obviously a wonderful mother. I’m thankful you offered this insight and your personal perspective. You seem very understanding and mature and I’m sure you will raise 3 strong, good men.

I don’t have facts and statistics, but I can empirically substantiate the claim that: the situation of your ex is the exact situation of 90% of the deadbeat dads.

The government isn’t holding him back, nor drugs (illegal), he’s holding himself back. And as you mentioned some men are held back by the negative woman in their lives. These are things we (as a people, men and women) need to take personal responsibility for.

PS – Forgive me if I over step my boundaries here, but I have to say it… You seem peaceful and forgiving, maybe you should rejoin your family; for your ex’s sake and the sake of your children!

My ex is suffering from depression, he knows it, he refuses to get help and take medication. His guilt from cheating on me prevents him from participating fully. He hates his job, he doesn’t make enough money, he’s struggling to support himself and the kids, all this chips away at his pride, ego, manhood. A lot of you say that the fathers could just take the kids to the park, make a phone call, it’s all free! Well, all that’s not enough. Maybe enough for a 5 year old, but not enough for a 13 & 18 year old. He needs to engage them mentally & emotionally, which he is unable to do. (Because of depression) The older boys sympathize with him, they feel sorry for him. My ex cannot emotionally raise these boys. But because I know better, instead of berating him, I encourage the boys to reach out to him, engage him. I’ve never spoken negatively about their father in front of them, which ensures they don’t have a negative protrayal of him.

You’d be surprised of how many women make it difficult for a man to even make the “phone call”. There are plenty of bitter women out there, and I understand why they are mad, they should be. Some women feel that if the man doesn’t or can’t support his child, then she wont give him access to the child. But at what point do you deal with the pain and disappointment and move on about the business of raising your child? Some people need a hand, not everyone has the strong personal circle of friends and family to support them.

As I said before, not everyone is working with the same tools. Information is everywhere, it’s surprising that everyone doesn’t know everything. Some people need “telling”. Some don’t want you to tell them anything! You’d be amazed to know how strong the human psyche is. It is powerful, more powerful than reality.